Coupling curiosity and compassion to explore what you want for yourself and addressing what gets in your way.
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Kate Bergman, LISW-S, M.S.S.A
Hi, I’m Kate, and I work with people who are ready to stop abandoning themselves to keep others comfortable, who sense there’s something deeper than talk therapy can reach, and who want to feel safe being authentically themselves.
Through NARM® and Somatic Experiencing®, I’ll help you tune into your body’s wisdom and reconnect with your own inner knowing at your own pace. You don’t need to have it figured out—you just need to be willing to show up exactly as you are. All of you is welcome here.
-Kate
You can’t turn off the scanning, the bracing, the constant sense that something bad is about to happen. Your body stays on high alert even when there’s no real threat. I help you discharge this stuck survival energy—the tension, the racing heart—so you can finally downregulate and find ease.
When stress hits, you don’t fight or flee—you fold. Your energy drains, motivation disappears, and even small tasks feel impossible. This dorsal vagal collapse is your nervous system’s deepest protective response. I help you build resources and capacity so your system has options beyond shutdown. We work with gentle activation, grounding, and orienting so you can access more resilience and stay present even when things feel hard.
You’ve spent so long attuning to everyone else that you’ve lost touch with your own needs and boundaries. This isn’t a character flaw—it’s an adaptive survival strategy. Through NARM, we explore the relational patterns keeping you stuck in self-abandonment and help you reclaim your right to take up space, have needs, and say no without collapsing into guilt or fear.
You know what needs to be done, but your body simply won’t let you begin. It’s not laziness—it’s your nervous system applying the brakes beneath your awareness. I help you build capacity to move forward even when every part of you wants to stay still, so momentum can finally build.
You can’t start until you know exactly how to do it right. Every task expands into an overwhelming mountain of preparation, research, and planning. This isn’t about high standards—it’s freeze disguised as conscientiousness. Your nervous system uses perfectionism to avoid the vulnerability of being seen, making mistakes, or being “found out.” I help you recognize when perfectionism is actually immobilization, so you can move toward messy action and discover that good enough is liberating.
Your body moves into appeasing mode before your mind can catch up—smoothing things over, making yourself smaller, prioritizing others’ comfort over your own truth. This isn’t weakness; it’s freeze channeled into relational survival. I help you recognize when you’re fawning, build capacity to tolerate others’ potential disappointment, and reclaim your right to have boundaries without needing to perform niceness.
You know something feels off in your body, but you can’t quite name it. Maybe you feel disconnected, numb, or like you’re living from the neck up. I help individuals reconnect to their bodies not as problems to fix, but as sources of wisdom and agency. Through somatic awareness and gentle attention to what your body is telling you, we create space for you to land more fully in yourself—to feel the exhale, the settling, the coming home.
You look fine on the outside. You’re managing, achieving, showing up—but inside, you’re barely holding it together. Your mind replays conversations at 3am, your body stays braced for the next thing, and rest feels impossible. This is functional freeze: appearing high-functioning while stuck in nervous system overwhelm. I help you move from survival mode to actually living, from paralysis to flow, so you can finally catch your breath and find solid ground beneath you.
You sense you’re not being yourself, but you have no idea what “yourself” even means anymore. You say yes when you mean no. You focus on everyone else’s needs while yours fade into background noise. The guilt of prioritizing yourself feels suffocating. I help you excavate who you actually are beneath the people-pleasing and performance. Together, we build the capacity to know what you want, trust your inner voice, and express yourself without apology—so you can finally stop performing and start living as you.